My first set of articles will be a short series on what I consider to be essential qualities for any authentic energy-healer to genuinely and earnestly aspire to and to actively work towards.
We often think of someone who is continually proclaiming how great they are as egotistical – unaware of the insecurities they’re clumsily trying to reassure themselves about, while we regard someone who plays down their strengths and who perhaps has less confidence in themselves as humble.
I have a slightly different understanding of these words. To me, ego has little to do with what I think about myself, and a lot more to do with how much I think about myself.
It is not unusual to hear energy healers explaining how it is not their work that is happening. “It’s got nothing to do with me. I’m just a channel. It’s all coming from a higher source through me. There’s nothing particularly great about me. All I have to do is sit here and direct the flow, or follow its instructions. I’m not doing anything exceptional here.”
And people naturally think what a humble person they must be, not having an inflated opinion of themselves, not taking the credit for themselves and freely attributing the results of their work to a higher power and expressing a sense of child-like wonder at the beauty of the process. What an example they are to emulate.
But if we are explaining our work in this way, let’s be completely honest about what’s going on here. Is such an explanation simply an attempt to explain how energy healing works? If so, why am “I” and my place in this so central to every single sentence? Or is it more about managing the person’s perception of me? Perhaps I don’t want to be seen as putting myself on a pedestal and this is an attempt to mitigate that perception. Whatever the truth, it’s clearly more about me than it is about the work.
And while we’re being honest, let’s go a little further. Might it be that I do unconsciously consider myself to be superior in some way, and am aware that this might be picked up by the other person, so I’m trying to mitigate that? Might I even be trying to strengthen that perception by stealth, while appearing, on the surface, to be “humble”? After all, if everything is coming from a higher source through me, then clearly there is something remarkable about that, as it’s not a widely held ability. If this being a channel is “all I have to do….”, then that clearly is exceptional. But perhaps I want to just lay the groundwork and leave it to the other person to come to that inevitable conclusion for themselves, while I can look as if I haven’t even noticed it and appear angelic.
If this is all about managing the other person’s perception of me, then it’s clearly not humble. I am right at the heart of it. So what would it look like to actually be humble?
There’s an integral part of humility that also facilitates its full expression, and that’s truthfulness: a commitment not only to tell the truth, but to seek the truth, to be prepared to face it in its fullness and to accept and welcome it whatever it tells us and however uncomfortable it might be. Without truthfulness, it’s not possible to get anywhere near humility, and it’s only through humility that we can allow ourselves to be truly authentic to ourselves and to others.
Do we have the fearlessness to be able to face the truth in this way, whatever the initial level of discomfort? Or is it too unbearable to look in the face the concealed unconscious motives we are bringing and to come to terms with them?
If we can become able to face the truth in this way, then we no longer have anything to fear. What are we actually frightened of anyway? Others’ perceptions of us, or how these might (and are very likely to) reflect and reinforce our own perceptions of ourselves?
With humility, these perceptions lose their importance. We don’t have any demands on ourselves, so there is no need to fear the truth.
With humility, we are comfortable with ourselves and no longer disturbed by what others think of us, be it negative and hostile (it no longer triggers a fear that it will reflect how we secretly feel about ourselves) or effusive with praise (which we no longer need to deflect this with pretend modesty). It no longer impacts our assessment of ourselves, which in any case becomes far less important.
With humility, we can afford to look honestly at ourselves and find that we can accept the duplicitousness that we find within (and in others) without judgement or condemnation, only a resolve to become more and more in line with our ideals.
With humility, we are free to be our uninhibited authentic selves, and a truly uninhibited authentic channel for the work that we do.